What I learned from Shantaram

  1. Plan your future. Earn your future.
  2. Look the world in the eye – and stare it down
  3. Sometimes you have to surrender before you can win
  4. If fate does not make you laugh, then you just don’t get the joke
  5. There are no good men or bad men – just good deeds and bad deeds
  6. There are two ways to ride a bike – with reflex or concentration
  7. Dream the future, plan the future, then make it happen
  8. In prison you can’t hide what you are. You can’t pretend to be tough. Either you are or you are not.
  9. Someone looks up to you, and you look up to someone.
  10. Justice if both fair and forgiving. Justice must leave everyone satisfied, even the wrong-doer. Justice is not only to punish, but also to save the wrong-doer.
  11. Fear and guilt are the dark angels who haunt the rich men.
  12. Despair and humiliation haunt the poor.
  13. Take everything personally, that’s what being a person is all about.
  14. Luminously intense stare is sign of suffering or intelligence, or both.
  15. Happiness is a myth invented to make us buy things.
  16. Our duty is to work and to suffer.
  17. Suffering is anger, rage against unfairness, the injustice of our sad and sorry a lot. Boiling resentment, anger, is suffering.
  18. The burden of happiness can only be relieved by the balm of suffering.
  19. Suffering is a way to test our love.
  20. Suffering is like happiness, but backwards. Think fist versus open hand on shoulder.
  21. People always hurt us with their trust. The surest way to hurt someone you like is to put all your trust in him.
  22. Love seldom concerns itself with what we know or with what’s true.
  23. You are not a man until you give your love, truly and freely, to a child. And you are not a good man until you earn the love, truly and freely, of a child in return.
  24. Shock is like a surprise when you’re not ready.
  25. We live on because we can love, and we love because we can forgive.
  26. The most precious gift you can bring to your lover is your suffering.
  27. It isn’t a secret unless keeping it hurts.
  28. If you make your heart into a weapon, you always end up using it on yourself.
  29. Hate kills you if you can’t let it go.
  30. It is possible to do the wrong thing for right reasons.
  31. Men reveal what they think when they look away, and what they feel when they hesitate. With women, it’s the other way around.
  32. Nobody gets what they want. Nobody.
  33. Millions of dreams are born and die again every day.
  34. Didiers body was born in Marseilles, his heart and soul were born sixteen years later in Genova.
  35. There is nothing so depressing as good advice.
  36. Honesty and loyalty can be tested, but there is no test for love. Love goes on forever, even if we come to hate the one we love.
  37. Every virtuous act is inspired by a dark secret.
  38. In the long run, motive matters more with good deeds than bad deeds.
  39. It is possible to stop hating oneself when the risk one faces becomes so great that one acts without thinking or feeling anything at all.
  40. There are two kinds of people who enter a deadly conflict: those who kill to live, and those who live to kill. If the killer-type begins to lose the fight, his reason for fighting it fades. If the survivor-type begins to lose, his reason for fighting it flares up fiercer than ever, hence the survivor-type often comes out of it on top.
  41. If we all learned what we should learn, the first time round, we wouldn’t need love at all.
  42. Pity is the part of love that asks nothing in return.
  43. Soldiers are defined by what they can endure, not what they can inflict.
  44. If we can’t respect the way we earn it, money has no value. If we can’t use it to make life better for our families and loved ones, money has no purpose.
  45. Man has to find a good woman, and when he finds her he has to win her love. Then he has to earn her respect. Then he has to cherish her trust. Then he has to go on doing that for as long as they live.
  46. Fanatic is someone who won’t change his mind and can’t change the subject. (W. Churchill)
  47. We will attempt suicide several times in our lives, and sooner or later we all succeed.
  48. Sometimes the worst thing you can do to a woman is to love her.
  49. A good man is as strong as the right woman needs him to be.
  50. All horse good, all man not good.
  51. No love, is no life.
  52. Anything that can be put into a nutshell, should remain there.
  53. When the student is ready, the teacher appears.
  54. Linbaba lost the whole world that he knew, and all the love it held.
  55. Love, like respect, isn’t something you get, it’s something you give.
  56. Strong men make their own luck.
  57. If you stare into its cold dead eye, the camera always mocks you with the truth.
  58. Every door is a portal through time as well as space.
  59. Red Queen contest is when we have to all the running just to keep in the same place.
  60. Lisa has been negative space, always waiting for someone, or something, or some kind of real feeling to fill me up and give her a reason.
  61. Fate always gives you two choices, the one you should take, and the one you take.
  62. Modena had been able to deal with pain, because he accepted his own part in causing it.
  63. It’s hot enough in Mumbai to burn all but the deepest thoughts from the troubled minds.
  64. When the loving, honest moment comes, it should be seized, and spoken, because it may never come again.
  65. Heroes come only in three kinds: dead, damaged, or dubious.
  66. Luck is what happens to you when fate gets tired of waiting.
  67. Old habits, die hard – and lie harder.
  68. It’s always a fools mistake to be alone with someone you shouldn’t have loved.
  69. Everyone in the whole world was Indian at least one past life.
  70. Every human heartbeat, is a universe of possibilities. No matter what kind of game you find yourself in, no matter how good or bad the luck, you can change your life completely with a single thought or a single act of love.

posted: 14 September 28
under: Art, Lifestyle, Observation, Travel